*This post was originally written in May 2016. Clearly, it took me a little bit to actually do the thing. Here I am now, January 2018. I have also put most of these thoughts into my first video blog, so if you have seen that, this is mostly repeated info. I edited it slightly as, shockingly, I am a slightly different person than I was almost two years and 30 births ago.*
Most of my adult life I have been prone to rants. This is especially true on social media when things get me in a tizzy. And if you know anything about social media, you know that it can throw many a person into a tizzy.
There have been a couple times in my non-professional life that I have attempted to "start a blog" as a place to put such musings or thoughts on one subject or another, but the focus was too broad and I would usually lose interest after an initial entry or two.
Enter big life change of having a baby, quitting my desk job, and embarking on the journey of becoming a doula. This has involved many things, one of which being the social media aspect of having a small business in 2018. A blog is by no means required, but it is one of those pieces that is constantly recommended. And as someone with the aforementioned lean toward putting my opinions and thoughts of all varieties out for public view, I felt it was time to jump in and start typing.
Seeing as I am planning on this being my first post, I wanted to start off with some good ol' expectation setting.
First of all, I will be talking about pregnancy, birth, postpartum, newborn care, and things that relate to any or all of those things. I may at times drift into a tangent, but, as this blog will be a branch of my doula business it at least sets the parameters. If you do not enjoy hearing about things occasionally involving vaginas, you are in the wrong blog. (unless you are stretching your comfort zone, in which case, welcome and good for you) My personal tilt in the birth world is toward evidence based birth practices (go check out evidencebasedbirth.com if you haven't already), helping parents know all of their options so they feel empowered in their choices as consumers, and looking at birth, pregnancy, and parenting from an inter-sectional feminist perspective. If you don't think that is your thing, I invite you to stick around anyways and keep stretching that comfort zone thing. I always welcome the chance to further explore an idea through discussion.
The second thing I want you to be able to expect from my writing is empathy and authenticity. I, of course, am speaking from my own specific life experiences. All we can do in life is speak our own truth and I will do so without apology, but I will try my best to always remind myself and anyone reading to look outside one's own circumstances. Pregnancy, birth, and parenting can be very touchy subjects with some thinking that what worked for them should work for everyone or that something that works in theory should always work in practice. This is just not the case and not something I will advocate. Each parent is different as is each child (as any parent of more than one child will tell you). This will not be a place for judgement or condemnation.
That does not mean that this will be a space that does not challenge ideas. This will be a place that values facts alongside opinions with the caveat that we must recognize the difference between the two. Critical thinking about the many choices available to parents does not need to equate to judgement for someone's choices in parenting or their body. This is a very important distinction that I'm sure will be spoken of again. Making different choices does not make any choice "right" or "wrong." It means that each person has reviewed the pros and cons, weighed the evidence and its sources, compared that to their own personal life circumstances, and made a decision. Or it could mean that they skipped one or two of those steps and jumped ahead to decision, but the fact remains that it is their decision to make. It is possible to have mature, civil discussion while still coming to different conclusions. And thank goodness for that or life would be boring as hell.